Soy products

I have recently become aware of the controversies of using soy products. My husband said to me the other day that I should check into getting more soy into my diet to help with aging, upcoming menopause, etc.
He had read somewhere that it would be good for me so I decided to do a search on specific foods that I could incorporate into meals. I had already been eating Morning Star sausage patties in place of pork due to digestion problems. I also like the occasional Spicy Bean Burgers.
My daughter-in-law is and has been vegetarian for about 20 years. My grandson, soon to be 15, is also vegetarian. He is one of my daughter's sons and decided this choice on his own about a year and a half ago.
Now when I started reading different sites I read both good and bad opinions about soy. It was when I really got into it and read several opinions that I started getting concerned about the amount of soy that my grandson had been consuming. Some say that it is very controversial but from what I read about the effects on the thyroid and digestion system I was definitely against it. Not to mention what it can do with hormones!

I will post a couple of links and let you decide for yourself.
http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/food/soy_story.html
http://reliableanswers.com/med/soy.asp

Not my idea of healthy!!! I am now in the process of searching out alternatives for all of us. I personally drink lactose free milk and think it is tastes better than soymilk. I have read about Seitan... a wheat product to use instead of soy and I plan to look into it further for my grandson. I myself have always used turkey bacon rather than pork and I'm sure there are other choices easier to find for me since I am not vegetarian.